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But that discomfort is the compost where growth happens.

If you’re writing, lean into it. Perhaps, finding common ground—or a story worth telling will develop.

The Age Gap Isn’t a Canyon—It’s a Bridge

Younger gay men often look at older men and see a mirror reflecting what they fear: age, invisibility, vulnerability.

Let a 23-year-old find an unlikely friendship that changes everything.

It’s all about perspective—and your readers will feel the difference.

They’ve Seen It All—and Still Show Up

The older gay generation didn’t grow up in a time of affirming TV shows and rainbow capitalism. It doesn’t care about crow’s feet or how fast someone walks.

Watch them dance at Pride. You’ll be the one with the love story younger people whisper about in coffee shops, wondering how you made it last.

When that day comes, wouldn’t it be something to say that you once had a friend who taught you how to age with style? Write characters who mistrust each other, then connect. The best writing doesn’t come from outlines alone.

But they might know how to survive a heartbreak with dignity or how to fix your leaky faucet while giving you relationship advice. Or love. Even so, the tapestry isn’t complete without the older threads. Bring age diversity to your characters. But here’s the twist: those older gays? Maybe he wore linen button-downs and smelled like cedar.

People often ask, “What will you do if he gets sick?”—a question Felsenthal finds both insulting and absurd. He recounts his early experiences at a bar where older men gathered, noting how these men, far from seeking validation, simply wanted to enjoy life without the pressure to conform to youthful ideals. Watched friends disappear during the AIDS crisis.

You know, when Judy Garland played on the jukebox, and someone they loved finally said yes.

As a writer, you want depth? However, Felsenthal insists that his relationship with his husband, Jeff, is built on mutual respect, shared interests, and a love that deepens with time.

Breaking Stereotypes, Building a Future

As Felsenthal and his husband continue to navigate their lives together, they face not just the typical challenges of aging but also the added layer of societal judgment.

Writers have the power to shift that narrative. Way too loud.

No one skips aging, not even with retinol and perfect lighting.