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If you’re using hands, your partner can start with one finger before moving up to two. Communicate with your partner and let them know how it feels.
If you’re using toys to prepare for bottoming, you’ll be using lube anyway. Think of it like any other muscle that needs a warm-up – just like you’d warm up at the gym before working out.
Using anal toys before sex can make bottoming more comfortable.
In general, start small before slowly progressing in size.
The Freddie Guide to: Bottoming
Bottoming is an art.
Firstly, it indicates a commitment to health and fitness, which are essential components of a healthy lifestyle. It can take some getting used to.
One way to help your anal muscles relax during sex is to gently "push" out as if you're, you know, pooping. They defy generalization, and their attractiveness is subjective and varies across different people.
Frequently asked questions
No, muscle bottoms are not universally attractive.
Enter, Freddie! Some people find a hairy behind attractive, associating it with masculinity. It keeps things moving smoothly and can help prevent pain or discomfort. By that I mean to say I’m an alpha personality type that likes to be in charge.
That doesn’t mean I can’t be submissive. While some gay men express a desire for partners with similar levels of muscularity, others appreciate a contrast in body types, such as a muscular top with a twink bottom.
If you or your partner(s) are using fingers, gently applying outward pressure can help get things ready – think of it like lightly stretching open a rubber band.
Pain is useful. Sometimes, it might be both. Doctors have seen everything, and an anal sex injury is nothing to them.
What about numbing lube?
You might see lubes or sprays that claim to make bottoming easier.
I’d like to set the record straight and get a few things off my chest.
First – I’m just going to tell you that I’m a manly bottom. You can try everything, but anatomy – either yours or your partner’s – can make it impossible. But for many others, things are more fluid.
Maybe you’re a top who bottoms once a year, maybe you’re vers and split it 50/50 (or 70/30, or 60/40), or maybe you don’t care about labels.
Types of lube that stay “slicker” (i.e. wetter) for longer are best for anal sex. It’s a signal from your body to slow down, use more lube or stop altogether. Keep in mind that everyone has unique preferences, and it's essential to prioritize your own comfort and confidence.
Bottoms are more alpha than you think
By: Kyle in Wyoming
There’s a ridiculous myth floating around that gay men can’t be rugged – particularly guys like me who identify as bottom.